Wednesday, 8 August 2012

What is perfect?

Hey girlies, I hope you are all well.

Today I want to talk to you all about something I have been thinking about a lot lately; and that's the idea of being perfect or beautiful according to society.

Now what I am going to say some of you might not agree with. But please remember that this is my opinion and if you don't like it I am sorry and please leave your opinions in the comments. 

What annoys me most about societies view on people (mostly women) is that they expect everyone to be perfect in every possible way, yet nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes. We all  have imperfections. It even says so in the bible:

"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?" Matthew 7:3

When people are trying to change societies idea of beauty, they often say that everyone is perfect. I don't see that, I don't see anyone as perfect, because if everyone was perfect, then we would all be the same, and there wouldn't be any suffering. But everyone is different, and there is suffering throughout the world. If you want to think that being different makes you perfect then so be it, but to me, being perfect means not making mistakes, and doing everything right all the time, and lets face it, no-one does that, so no-one (to me) is perfect.
Yet don't hate that, embrace it. You can't help but make mistakes, you don't learn unless you do. You're not always going to get things right first time, but that's okay because you're just finding new ways for it not to work. It would be nice to not get anything wrong but that's never going to happen, just work towards getting it right, by never giving up.

Another thing I have been noticing on Facebook a lot lately, is comparing a girl with cancer to a model, saying that the girl with cancer is more beautiful. I understand that they are doing it to show that societies view on beauty is wrong, but in my opinion it is the wrong way to go about it. What I see is people judging someone on how they look, saying that because the model is society pretty, she isn't pretty at all. We shouldn't say one person is more beautiful than someone else, we should be showing that everyone is beautiful. It doesn't matter if you fit the media's view of beautiful or not, everyone is!

One more thing that bugs me is how society/the media makes out that you have to be skinny to fit into their view of beautiful. I've noticed that adverts for health products are aimed at women, and instead of aiming to help you be healthy, they just want you to be skinny. It's no wonder so many people have body issues; they only have to look in a magazine or watch TV just to see that skinny is 'beautiful'. People are trying to count calories with everything, instead of just exercising and choosing healthy foods to be healthy. If you are counting calories, you aren't being healthy, you're trying to lose weight. 
This will make me sound hypocritical, but I am doing that, but it's not because I want to be society skinny, it's simply because I am bordering on over-weight, so losing weight for me, is to be healthy, and once I am at a reasonably healthy weight again I'll stop counting calories. Choose to be healthy rather than skinny and you'll be happier. Ignore society and the media.

I'm just going to conclude by saying you are all beautiful, whether you are skinny, curvy or over-weight; tall or short; no matter your nose, eyes, mouth or face shape; hair colour, skin colour or eye colour. We are all 'Real Women'; we are all real people. We aren't perfect and never will be, but we are our own person and nothing can change that. You control your thoughts and actions, and that is what makes you happy, not fitting in with society, but changing how you think about yourself and how you live your life. Just remember that.


  1. I 100% agree - I would much rather be healthy and happy with myself than be 'celebrity/media beautiful'.

    Magazines and newspapers are always quick to point out their beauty ideal and to criticise ordinary people for not being 'perfect' by living up to these standards - I think the ideal they create is impossible and also generally unhealthy.

    I agree with you that no-one is perfect but we are all beautiful in our own way because of our uniqueness (whether that's kindness and compassion, talents, beliefs or looks)!


    1. It is impossible, I agree; no-one can achieve that idea of perfection, because it doesn't exist. It makes me sad that they create that view and think it's okay.
      Thank you for your comment and opinion :-)

      Have a beautiful day


  2. very inspirational :)